If you have this sentence on your mind – he has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with me, you should seriously think about what that means about who he really is and why would you welcome that type of person into your life.
If you don’t know what to do, read this sentence once again – he has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with me. Think about it, even though he is in a new relationship and the two of you are planning to get back together, it is likely that he will turn around and do the exact same thing to you. He will not think twice about it because it has become some kind of a habit and it is normal for him to have a girlfriend and be with you at the same time.
Know your values!
Perhaps, your partner is a serial relationship jumper. He is pretty good in always looking for the better opportunity, and never fully leaving a relationship until he already has one foot in his next one.
This means he is really insecure, but that does not excuse his behavior. You should be aware that he should want you to be happy and he should encourage YOU to date. He shouldn’t be sleeping with you, encouraging your feelings for him while he dates others. Look with your eyes, not your heart.
On the other hand, are you sure you don’t feel bad about this hypothetical cheating abetment? People rarely write in to ask for help preventing them from doing anything they don’t regret. Maybe you are just looking for the approval of someone else.
He has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with me – But what if I still want him back?
Here are some of the steps you should follow when in doubt. Every time you ask yourself „Should I sleep with my ex even though he started dating another girl?“, the answer is big NO.
-Note to self-
Even if he is not in a real relationship, sleeping with an ex after a breakup is the least effective way to start building your relationship again. Getting someone back takes more finesse than just giving yourself to him on a platter. The next step is no contact. You should show him that you are not messing around and won’t be his mistress while he embarks on a full-fledged relationship with another woman.
-Feelings-
Feelings are a difficult part of this journey. You should be determined to set boundaries. Sometimes, your feelings for him may be so strong that you think that jumping into his arms can solve all your problems, but it is not. You need to remind yourself that is he is capable to cheat on his girlfriend, he will do the same to you. Remember, you don’t deserve that! You have to control your emotions and it is necessary for every situation in the „Ex boyfriend recovery program“, but even more so here. If you give in to your attitude, he will think he can have it all without commitment to you. This is not what you want. If you let him, you will be miserable in the end. Keep your eye on the big picture.
He complains about his current situation but makes no real moves to leave her
You are not some kind of classless homewrecker, and he knows that. You should always know that you mustn’t get deep with him even though he constantly complaints about his current girl. If he talks about breakup for a long time, but it is dragging out longer than you could imagine, it is not because he is looking for the right time to cut her loose. All that “relationship struggle” nonsense was just meant to get your hopes up enough he could get his cheating intentions in the door. He should know you only want to be in a committed relationship.
He has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with me – Does he have any feelings for you at all
Beyond the feelings he creates in his head to fulfill his sexual desires, that’s it. He may tell you everything you want to hear while you two are alone, but that’s all to manipulate with you. You probably feel that something is missing because it is, you know he has a girlfriend but wants to sleep with you. When he wants you, but doesn’t want to be with you, your suspicions of this will only grow. If there’s only room for you in his bed for casual sex, but not his heart, then kick that wanna-be cheater to the curb. And let’s hope his girlfriend will do the same. No one should consider the idea of being with a man who has a girlfriend and wants to sleep with you.
Remember this: „If he’ll do it FOR you, he’ll do it TO you“ or maybe “How you get them is how you lose them”, in case you are questioning yourself is this situation okay for all three of you.
