I love my girlfriend but I want to be single – What should I do?

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When we’re talking about having one woman of my life there is always a thought in my head that screams “I love my girlfriend but I want to be single”. Yes, I know it sounds selfish. In some moments I just want to feel the taste of freedom again. Hang out with the guys, do one-night stands, do not feel any responsibility, and just do what I want to do at that moment.

I love my girlfriend but I want to be single – Why?

I know that most people want one person who means the world to them. Like I do. I have her and I know I need to be happy because I have a person like her by my side. Maybe it is single life that I’m missing sometimes. Feeling that goes through me is just something that says I need a little space. When I mention the phrase I love my girlfriend but I want to be alone in front of someone, I always feel a dose of judging. People don’t understand how it is to not feel freedom for a long time. I believe that there are more people like me out there who can’t speak about it. Also, I know that they feel the same pressure of the environment.

If you think that’s because there is no love anymore between us or attraction, well I must say that’s not a thing. She is a very lovely, smart, attractive, funny person, everything I want. I just feel sometimes that I would be more grateful to have her if I see how it is to be with the wrong one. Also, I know that if we take a break or if we get a little bit distanced she will maybe never go back to me again. That’s something I would regret my whole life. From another perspective the grass is always greener on the other side. For me it’s the same situation. Another thing that goes through my head is that she will find someone else or she will feel better without me. I know that is hard to understand but that’s how I feel inside. It’s not long term situation, just a little break. I can’t tell her about this because I’m afraid that she would not understand. Because of that, I keep it to myself.

My girlfriend wants a break but still contacts me
My girlfriend wants a break but still contacts me

I love my girlfriend but I want to be single – smart decision or not?

If you are in a situation like this and you are in doubt like I am. Because you don’t know what to do. Maybe it’s time to calm down. If there is not something else in the game. Then it’s just the moment of weakness. Just realize how happy you are because you have someone who is only yours. How many other people would change hundreds of people for one-night stand, parties, crazy nights, just to be with the person they love. You must realize how lucky you are.

Our brain sometimes makes a picture in our head that doesn’t exist in reality. We think we have a problem, but for real we don’t have. So when you stay alone at night and you think I love my girlfriend but I want to be alone, don’t make decisions immediately. Take time, rest your head, think about it for a little bit longer. Sometimes it’s just a moment of loneliness, maybe you need affection, closeness.

Human brain is very powerful. 90% of things we keep imagine in our head become our reality. So remember how you think, that’s how your life is going to be. So be careful what you think and what is going on inside your head. Be surrounded by people and things you love, that’s true happiness.

He has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with me
He has a girlfriend but still wants to sleep with me

End of the battle

In a situation like this you must discover what you really want. You need to ask yourself what you feel inside. Also, maybe that’s a sign to see in what direction your life would go. Listen to your inner voice. For me, this is what I decided:

Well, the answer is that I’m here next to a girl I love the most. I realized how happy I am to have her. To have her support, love. She makes me complete in this crazy world where is so hard to find love, loyalty, happiness, everything that she means to me. Because in these times when everything and everybody is fake, this is a real treasure. I know my brain sometimes makes the situation in my head that maybe is not true or correct. That’s the reason why I always think twice and the most important thing, I always listen to my heart. I hope that I will never think again I love my girlfriend but I want to be single.

When your head is cold and your heart is warm, then you have perfect balance in your body and life. Be happy, love your person, take care of her, keep her close, make her feel loved, wanted and special because she is.

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