I’m spending another night alone. My boyfriend is too. He sent me a pic of empty space in his bed. I long to be there, but I’m not. I’m a definition of LDR loneliness. I can’t sleep. I miss him so much. I miss everything, but sometimes I really feel the effects of physical loneliness in a LDR. Sometimes I don’t know what to do about loneliness when those feelings hit me.
LDR loneliness: I’m hugging the koala he gave me and crying
He knows I like koalas so he ordered me a stuffed koala on Amazon. I loved it! It’s a big koala, one I can hug. I so liked the attention and the fact he listens to me.
When I start feeling insecure about what he’s doing and will we make it, or just when I really miss him, I hug the koala and cry. There are days I just need reassurance and the only person that can give it to me is my boyfriend – the person I need.
I don’t tell him that. I don’t want to sound clingy.
Long distance relationship boredom
Long distance relationship can easily turn to long distance boredom. Sometimes it feels like it’s a repetition of messages for good night and good morning.
Not sure if it is because I’m bored and can’t seem to think of anything better to do than wish I was doing something with my boyfriend. We tried to find games for LDR couples, we can both play online. But we don’t like same games so that didn’t work.
How to prevent Long distance relationship boredom
Here are some things we tried and some we still try. Long talks, dinner dates and listening to each other sleep help. Some things turned out not to be so helpful like sexting.
LDR calls – some days epic, some empty
We still call almost every day. Some days, our talks are epic, but sometimes you just don’t have anything to talk about. When that happens, I get insecure. Why isn’t it easier to do meaningful things together.
LDR sexuality – I’m not really into sexting and video chat sex
I don’t want him to think I don’t want him because I do. I fantasize about him a lot. But I guess I’m just not the sexting type and don’t feel like sending nudes. I know he’s into it. Tried it once, didn’t really work. I prefer the real thing, but that’s hard when we’re apart. I explained how I feel and had to talk for ages to make him understand it’s not about him, I just don’t like sexting.
LDR movie nights
We’ve watched a lot of same movies at the same time while being on FaceTime so we can comment on the movie. It’s not the real thing, but it’s OK.
I even tried some of the 7 Romantic ways to surprise your boyfriend in a long distance relationship That was cool, especially the part involving pizza.
LDR dinner dates – ordering same food at the same time
Ordering food together and having it at the same time is OK. We talk before we eat and after we eat. A bit while we eat too.
LDR – Listening to him sleep
There is one LDR activity I find amazing. I love listening to my boyfriend asleep through FaceTime. On rare occasions he falls asleep first, I turn up the volume on my phone and listen to him breathing in his sleep. I close my eyes and imagine I’m curled up and cozy next to him.
LRD is like a book with some parts that have to be written in invisible ink
Struggling with Uncertainty in my Long distance relationship
I know we’re great for each other and he’s totally amazing. Sometimes I feel like I just adore him. I know that’s unhealthy.
He is handsome and popular. I don’t know what he’s doing all the time and who he’s with. Is he texting other girls? I know he isn’t, but still. We have to spend a lot of time apart. I’m scared if it will end our Long distance relationship.
Struggling with uncertainty sometimes makes me incredibly anxious. I don’t tell him that because I don’t want to seem insecure.
On the other hand, I feel guilty for not sharing everything I feel. I know every healthy relationship should have open communication. But it’s harder when in a long distance relationship. It’s like a book with some parts that have to be written in invisible ink.
I don’t need sleep. I need more time with you…
I told him I miss him so much…
The nights are the hardest. But when the day comes that’s every bit as hard as the night. Then the night comes again. Only people who were in a serious long distance relationship can understand LDR loneliness.
Recently, I felt very vulnerable. It was late at night. I told him that I miss him so much and that it’s just hard and started crying. He was patient with me and told me he misses me too and this will pass. Time will come when we will be together forever.
Than he told me to get some sleep and I’ll feel better in the morning.
And I thought: I don’t need sleep. I need more time with you…