When two people are in a relationship, they share their minds, body, and soul. Therefore, an interruption of any other earthly force cannot completely erase two people from their memories. This is even true when the couple in the relationship breaks up. You may be wondering, is it even possible to move on and get over the person you were in a relationship with? Is it possible to completely remove the memories of all those days, weeks, months, or years? Unfortunately, no. Here’s the truth, those memories will forever be a part of your life, whether or not that ex-partner is currently in your life. It has already been established that it’s often harder for boys to get over a breakup than for girls. However, after a breakup, it’s natural to be curious and ask yourself, ‘Does he love me?
Signs your ex is pretending to be over you, even when he isn’t
Friends tell you he can’t stop talking about how much he hates you
Ah, that defense mechanism! If he has time to talk about you, you know that he still has feelings for you. By talking about how much he hates you, he is trying to hide his remaining feelings for you. He knows that it’s unacceptable to continue to love you so, in the end, he tells others how vicious and vindictive you are and that he hates you! When someone has truly gotten over someone then they leave that person in the past and never need to mention her in the present.
He often sends you messages or calls you if he’s under the influence of alcohol
If he has a drinking habit, this is a clear sign that your ex is pretending to be over you. Even if you don’t specifically receive drunken calls from him, you’re sure to get some message. As stupid as that sounds, it means you’re still on his mind.
Secretly maintain contact with your family members
Does your ex have your siblings or parents phone numbers? If so, your ex will certainly contact them from time to time to find out what’s currently going on in your life. He still can’t accept that his significance in your life has been diminished.
His posts on social media refer to lost love
When you scroll through social media, if you haven’t blocked it yet, and you see the huge number of sad songs, love quotes, and links about a lost love on his feed, it’s one of many signs your ex is pretending to be over you. If all of his posts are somehow related to lost love, broken heart, pain, and betrayal, chances are those posts are for you!
Pretending to be someone else
If he’s constantly going on dates with new people and creating profiles on dating apps within a few weeks of breaking up, he still hasn’t gotten over you. People often look for someone else when they try to move on and get over their ex. He does exactly that by pretending to be someone else.
He’s devastated when he finds out that you’re in a new relationship
Men are quite competitive when it comes to love relationships. If he behaves strangely after learning that you have found some new love interest, he has certainly not gotten over you yet.This can include him becoming angry, furious, jealous and aggressive.
He overindulges in social media
Has he changed lately? Does he post his every achievement, every activity he engages in, and every single thing that happens in his life on social media? This is his way of showing you how he’s doing well without you, which still means that you are somehow still important to him.
When you’re around him, he seems to be trying very hard not to fall apart
Pay attention to how he behaves when you’re near him. Does he look lost, broken, or in pain? Does his body language change abruptly when you show up? If he still cares about you, your mere presence is enough to change his physicality. It’s a very clear sign that he’s still cultivating deep feelings for you.
What to do if you notice these signs your ex is pretending to be over you
After reading this, you may have realized that these signs indicate that your ex isn’t over you and you know that the answer to the question ‘Does he love me?’ is yes. You might feel excited and happy that the signs indicate that your ex hasn’t gotten over you. As a result, you might want to hang out with your ex because you still have feelings for him. However, even if he displays these signs, that doesn’t mean he wants to come back to you and that he wants to renew your relationship. As well, you shouldn’t run back to someone that you’re trying to move on from. If you go back to someone who wasn’t meant for you, you will only be hurting yourself. To help you, we bring you some tips on how to deal with your ex.
- Let your ex feel good about himself when he talks to you (i.e. encourage him, motivate him, give him compliments, say positive things, etc).
- Do NOT argue or get into a quarrel
- Let your ex view you as very positive. People love happy people.
- Keep the conversation light and fun always
- Absolutely NO serious talks about the relationship whatsoever
Future hope?
Yes, sometimes relationships fall apart but do get put back together again. This event is rare but not impossible. If you think that your past relationship is one of the exceptions, take a moment before rushing into anything. You must first find out if there’s still hope in trying to get your ex back.The last thing you want to do is invest your time in something that will never happen again. Even if your relationship turns out to be done forever, it’s not the end of the world. You can still live a happy life without him.